Friday, December 31, 2010
Need Advice?
You know what I just realized? Things are always better when you have someone to talk to. I mean and sometimes it's best to talk to someone when you remain anonymous. So I've decided that I'm going to start giving out advice. I've always been good at putting myself in other people's shoes and I love talking about things and giving advice to my friends. I also love the feeling of knowing you just helped someone move one from a break up or get over a fear or ask out a crush. It's just a wonderful feeling and I'd like to tell anyone who needs someone to talk to that you do have someone to go to when you need it and that you're not alone. :D
Friday, December 24, 2010
Creepy Teachers.
This is by far one of the most talked about topics on the subject of high school. Of course, not all teachers are creepy or annoying, or just plain gross, but there are the chosen few teachers that are just completely horrible. There are the mean and strict teachers, there are the gross and nerdy teachers, and there are the utterly perverted teachers. Those are the three worst types of teachers. And no matter how many different teachers there are in a school, you are bound to wind up with at least one.
Right now, there is one teacher in particular that falls into the creepy/mean category. My science teacher, whose name I can't state, doesn't necessarily pick on the whole class, he mostly picks on individuals. My friend Laura for example, he is constantly telling her who she reminds him of. She reminds him of his ex-girlfriend, she reminds him of this girl he met in college. ect. And quite frankly I think that is highly unprofessional and inappropriate for the place and purpose. Then as well, he is also always making conclusions about our class. That we are lying to him about him teaching us about something just to get out of doing the work. Or us lying that he didn't assign this work. Sometimes he even blames us for his mistakes! Again, I feel that behavior is completely unreasonable and that he is just atrocious in his allegations. The point is, sometimes you just have to deal with the teachers you are given. Unless if there is actually a serious problem where you are feeling violated, you will survive and hopefully in the years to come you will have better teachers.
Right now, there is one teacher in particular that falls into the creepy/mean category. My science teacher, whose name I can't state, doesn't necessarily pick on the whole class, he mostly picks on individuals. My friend Laura for example, he is constantly telling her who she reminds him of. She reminds him of his ex-girlfriend, she reminds him of this girl he met in college. ect. And quite frankly I think that is highly unprofessional and inappropriate for the place and purpose. Then as well, he is also always making conclusions about our class. That we are lying to him about him teaching us about something just to get out of doing the work. Or us lying that he didn't assign this work. Sometimes he even blames us for his mistakes! Again, I feel that behavior is completely unreasonable and that he is just atrocious in his allegations. The point is, sometimes you just have to deal with the teachers you are given. Unless if there is actually a serious problem where you are feeling violated, you will survive and hopefully in the years to come you will have better teachers.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Friends and "Friends"
One of the all time most advertised things in my opinion about high school is friends and "friends". The friends being the people who stick by you and comfort you in times and the people whom you can trust with your thoughts and feelings. And the "friends" being the people who either you don't know very well who claim to be your friend when their friends aren't around or the people who act as your friend but then go and do something that a true friend should never do. Both of those things classify a person as a "friend" and with my experience, your "friends" can turn out to be someone that you aways thought of as a true friend.
One of my "friend"s is a girl I've known since I was 4 and just so happens to be the same girl with whom I made a pact 11 years ago that we would be BBFLs and that we would always stick by each other till our deaths. But this all changed when we got to high school. So my so-called "friend" stood by me as I did with her for the first few weeks. We ate lunch together with some of our old elementary friends and some of our new friends as well. But after a while things started to change and she stopped talking to us in the halls as we passed by and then she would only eat with us once in a while and then things just stopped. We never saw her or spoke to her until she had none of her friends with her. But even then she would still find a "better crowd" to join and she would just go on with her life like everything was cool and she was still friends with us. Plus over top of that, she started to act like we all revolved around her. On the last day of school before the winter break for example, she called me and asked me if my mom could drop her off at home. I told her that I was planning to go to the mall with my friends and that my mom couldn't drive because she and my little brother were watching a movie in the theater. She then called five minutes later and told me that she was waiting outside for us and she sounded sort of impatient. So I told her again that my mom couldn't drive and that we were going to the mall but she could come with us if she wanted to. She refused and said she would find her own way home but she didn't sound very understanding but I mean she hadn't talked to me in weeks and now she expected me to pull my mom out of a movie just so she could drive her home? That just goes to show that even if you've known someone for your whole life, it doesn't mean that they're your friend. And if someone can't even bother to say hello to you even once in a while, then they're definitely not your friend.
One of my "friend"s is a girl I've known since I was 4 and just so happens to be the same girl with whom I made a pact 11 years ago that we would be BBFLs and that we would always stick by each other till our deaths. But this all changed when we got to high school. So my so-called "friend" stood by me as I did with her for the first few weeks. We ate lunch together with some of our old elementary friends and some of our new friends as well. But after a while things started to change and she stopped talking to us in the halls as we passed by and then she would only eat with us once in a while and then things just stopped. We never saw her or spoke to her until she had none of her friends with her. But even then she would still find a "better crowd" to join and she would just go on with her life like everything was cool and she was still friends with us. Plus over top of that, she started to act like we all revolved around her. On the last day of school before the winter break for example, she called me and asked me if my mom could drop her off at home. I told her that I was planning to go to the mall with my friends and that my mom couldn't drive because she and my little brother were watching a movie in the theater. She then called five minutes later and told me that she was waiting outside for us and she sounded sort of impatient. So I told her again that my mom couldn't drive and that we were going to the mall but she could come with us if she wanted to. She refused and said she would find her own way home but she didn't sound very understanding but I mean she hadn't talked to me in weeks and now she expected me to pull my mom out of a movie just so she could drive her home? That just goes to show that even if you've known someone for your whole life, it doesn't mean that they're your friend. And if someone can't even bother to say hello to you even once in a while, then they're definitely not your friend.
Rumors.
One horrible flaw of high school is the rumors. Rumors can completely destroy people's lives and can just punch a hole in their social life. I can gladly say that I haven't had much experience, but there are people around me that I care about that have been hurt by rumors. And even though I haven't been hurt specifically hurt by a rumor, one has hurt me because of what I found out about someone because of a rumor that went around about us.
So just as the whole mess with Jake was settled and forgiven, a rumor went on about us saying that we were going out. And usually, I don't really care about rumors and I just ignore them. But then Jack came up and asked me if I told everyone that we were together. Of course I told him I didn't and that he shouldn't care about rumors. But then things got sort of complicated when he told me that he loved me. This wasn't the first time he'd said this to me, but of course I thought it strange that he would tell me this after we'd settled that we were just going to be friends. So just out of curiosity, I asked him if he actually meant it. He replied that he did and that he wanted me back. That was when my life got horribly complicated. I had two choices. 1. To get my life back to the way it had been for the past few months, just as I'd wanted to do for the past while. Or. 2.To say "You had your chance and now it's too late" and say good-bye for good. Because there is just one fact that I had to acknowledge. Jake just wasn't good for me and I had to move on. So I went with the second option even though the bigger part of me wanted so bad to have him back in my arms and to just hold him and make sure that no one but me got to have him. But the more reasonable part of me decided that listening to the selfish part of myself would just hurt me in the worst ways and that I had to listen to what my head told me to do rather than my heart.
So just as the whole mess with Jake was settled and forgiven, a rumor went on about us saying that we were going out. And usually, I don't really care about rumors and I just ignore them. But then Jack came up and asked me if I told everyone that we were together. Of course I told him I didn't and that he shouldn't care about rumors. But then things got sort of complicated when he told me that he loved me. This wasn't the first time he'd said this to me, but of course I thought it strange that he would tell me this after we'd settled that we were just going to be friends. So just out of curiosity, I asked him if he actually meant it. He replied that he did and that he wanted me back. That was when my life got horribly complicated. I had two choices. 1. To get my life back to the way it had been for the past few months, just as I'd wanted to do for the past while. Or. 2.To say "You had your chance and now it's too late" and say good-bye for good. Because there is just one fact that I had to acknowledge. Jake just wasn't good for me and I had to move on. So I went with the second option even though the bigger part of me wanted so bad to have him back in my arms and to just hold him and make sure that no one but me got to have him. But the more reasonable part of me decided that listening to the selfish part of myself would just hurt me in the worst ways and that I had to listen to what my head told me to do rather than my heart.
Boyfriends.
There is one high school reality that everyone worries about. Relationships. High school is definitely the times period where these things begin. The place where hearts are captured and broken. But all this is totally unnecessary. From my experience, I know how easy it is to get side tracked and find yourself being swept off your feet by that so called "perfect guy". But what you need to remember is that if this guy is really the one for you, being with this person will not interfere with your school life and your connection with your family. IF this does happen, then either you need to get your priorities straight and make it clear with him that you have other things that are just as important in your life as your boyfriend. But there is plenty of time for that stuff. High school is the time to enjoy yourself and make decisions that reflect on your life. But here is my story.
There was this one guy in my science class who was the cutest and sweetest guy in the world. And he seemed to be interested in me so I decided to make a move. The day I had planned to do this, our teacher assigned us a project where we had gotten to choose our groups. And he'd chosen me. So of course I was all excited about that. but there was also this other guy in our group that I started to befriend. And in the end, the guy i liked, the guy I had just met, and I had all traded numbers and had a couple of laughs over some inside jokes. And later on in the day, the guy I had just met who I'll call Jake for this purpose and I realized that we also had Socials together. But we had a seat assignment for that class so we couldn't sit together and so we settled for texting. And first of all, I just have to say that this was the first mistake I made. You shouldn't break the rules over any guy. No matter how little the rule is. But anyways, so we texted for a while in class and I could hear his friends saying "Jake, Jake! Who are you texting?" and "Ohh Jake! Is that your girlfriend?" and all the while I never heard anything from Jake. Then after class I caught up to him in the hall and started talking to him. That's when I realized how sweet and cute he actually was. But it was after school when everything took a drastic turn. I was at musical theatre rehearsal when I got a message on my phone. It was Jake. We started talking again for a while about stuff and then after a while he asked what guys usually ask. "Who do you like?" and so I told him that I wouldn't tell him until I knew him a bit better. And plus, I was starting to have second thoughts about him. I was starting to fall for him. But after a while he became more and more persistent and he asked "Me??" and I didn't really know at that point so I said "Maybe. I don't know. What if it was you?" and he said that he wouldn't mind but if he was going to like me back, then he was going to have to get to know me better. So that's how it all started. For a month it was all just us getting to know each other and then once we knew each other inside and out, we started to talk about US. But here's the thing. We never got any time to hang out together in real life. I had rehearsals everyday until 5pm and he had basketball everyday at lunch. And I couldn't talk to him in class because of some personal reasons with the people that sat around him. So we mostly only talked over text and that was all. But after two months, things started to change. I started to want to move on to the next stage of our relationship. But there was just one problem. I am a pretty shy person and I didn't really fit in with the people he hung out with. So I avoided contact and that was when I decided that this wouldn't work. I had to have someone who would take charge and the initiative to make me feel welcome to make up for my shy personality. So after three months we called it off. I told him I just wanted to be friends and we made sure that this was what we wanted. And now we are just friends and he has moved on. But I am feeling regret over my decision and I am always wondering what would have been if I'd actually had the guts to make a move. But during these few months, my life had been composed of one thing. Jake. I'd dreamed about him, daydreamed about him, talked to him 24/7, and even once I'd accidentally called my brother Jake. My whole world was full of Jake. Jake. Jake. even though I'm a great student, homework had become impossible for me and I'd stayed up till 8am once just talking away. it came to the point that when we called it off, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. So now that I've learned this, I think that if I were to go back and redo this, I would make sure that I came out of my shell and made an effort to make some face to face contact.
There was this one guy in my science class who was the cutest and sweetest guy in the world. And he seemed to be interested in me so I decided to make a move. The day I had planned to do this, our teacher assigned us a project where we had gotten to choose our groups. And he'd chosen me. So of course I was all excited about that. but there was also this other guy in our group that I started to befriend. And in the end, the guy i liked, the guy I had just met, and I had all traded numbers and had a couple of laughs over some inside jokes. And later on in the day, the guy I had just met who I'll call Jake for this purpose and I realized that we also had Socials together. But we had a seat assignment for that class so we couldn't sit together and so we settled for texting. And first of all, I just have to say that this was the first mistake I made. You shouldn't break the rules over any guy. No matter how little the rule is. But anyways, so we texted for a while in class and I could hear his friends saying "Jake, Jake! Who are you texting?" and "Ohh Jake! Is that your girlfriend?" and all the while I never heard anything from Jake. Then after class I caught up to him in the hall and started talking to him. That's when I realized how sweet and cute he actually was. But it was after school when everything took a drastic turn. I was at musical theatre rehearsal when I got a message on my phone. It was Jake. We started talking again for a while about stuff and then after a while he asked what guys usually ask. "Who do you like?" and so I told him that I wouldn't tell him until I knew him a bit better. And plus, I was starting to have second thoughts about him. I was starting to fall for him. But after a while he became more and more persistent and he asked "Me??" and I didn't really know at that point so I said "Maybe. I don't know. What if it was you?" and he said that he wouldn't mind but if he was going to like me back, then he was going to have to get to know me better. So that's how it all started. For a month it was all just us getting to know each other and then once we knew each other inside and out, we started to talk about US. But here's the thing. We never got any time to hang out together in real life. I had rehearsals everyday until 5pm and he had basketball everyday at lunch. And I couldn't talk to him in class because of some personal reasons with the people that sat around him. So we mostly only talked over text and that was all. But after two months, things started to change. I started to want to move on to the next stage of our relationship. But there was just one problem. I am a pretty shy person and I didn't really fit in with the people he hung out with. So I avoided contact and that was when I decided that this wouldn't work. I had to have someone who would take charge and the initiative to make me feel welcome to make up for my shy personality. So after three months we called it off. I told him I just wanted to be friends and we made sure that this was what we wanted. And now we are just friends and he has moved on. But I am feeling regret over my decision and I am always wondering what would have been if I'd actually had the guts to make a move. But during these few months, my life had been composed of one thing. Jake. I'd dreamed about him, daydreamed about him, talked to him 24/7, and even once I'd accidentally called my brother Jake. My whole world was full of Jake. Jake. Jake. even though I'm a great student, homework had become impossible for me and I'd stayed up till 8am once just talking away. it came to the point that when we called it off, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. So now that I've learned this, I think that if I were to go back and redo this, I would make sure that I came out of my shell and made an effort to make some face to face contact.
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